I didn’t make resolutions for 2020. For a coach that’s definitely out of the ordinary.
I did something different this year!
Instead of creating resolutions, I created structures that produce the things that I desire. Things like health, wealth, alignment, love, happiness, fulfillment and connection.
I do that by being intentional and consistent with the habits and actions that make me feel good. As human beings were guided by our feelings and our self talk. This year I’m challenging you to see resolutions slightly different! 👁
I believe that people fuck up resolutions because of (1)feelings, (2)self talk and (3)lack of consistency.
What you focus on, you create. Therefore, if your resolutions are fueled by self hatred and negativity you will never truly achieve your goals. Typically people choose to make change out of a place of pain and although that can be a motivator it’s not necessarily the best or most efficient. Creating a change out of love is the best, quickest and most efficient way for making lasting change. How have your feelings impacted your goals in the past?
Self talk is something we all deal with. It can work for you or it can work against you and I’m sure you’ve seen that play out in your own life. Forcing yourself to do something through inflicting feelings of guilt, shame or any other negative based feeling will leave you feeling empty, alone and unworthy. Instead of allowing negative feelings to create negative self talk which fuels the cycle, make a different choice. Like I said above, come from a place of love and other positive emotions. Then, make an effort to gauge the way you talk to yourself. What do you need to tell yourself when you’re struggling with a resolution? How can you encourage yourself to take action instead of guilting yourself to take action?
LACK OF CONSISTENCY
People fuck up their New Years resolutions because they don’t stay consistent. Now, I’m not saying you have to do something every single day without fail in order to get the benefits of any given habit. Absolutely not. But when you create a game plan for yourself you HAVE TO stick to it. (With that being said please always be reasonable and allow progress to be gradual.) When you are not consistent with yourself you slowly begin to lose trust… in your word and in your ability. Losing trust with yourself is a dangerous place to be. The quickest way to get out of it is to do what you say you’re going to do. And I mean that even with the little things! I’ve talked about this extensively on podcasts: consistency comes from self love. SELF LOVE IS SELF DISCIPLE!!
If you want this year to be different than last year do the following: Here are 5 very simple steps to getting what you want in 2020 ✨
- Reflect on this past year. Decide what you want more of and what you want less of. Think about the things that made you feel good/happy/whole/authentic/peaceful etc
2. Now analyze. What were the actions that mapped those results? Where did those feelings come from?
3. Now, focusing on this next year – you’ve decided what you want more of and what you want less of. What are the actions/habits/rituals that will produce those desired feelings in 2020?
4. Create a plan/schedule/routine to help you achieve that feeling daily/weekly. Keep this part simple. Make it attainable.
5. Write down your progress daily. Pick the pillars that matter most to you and write the feeling you had and what action created that feeling. How did you feel today went? In relationships/connectivity? In career? In finance? In fun/play? In happiness? In health? Etc
For Example: Today I had lunch with my beautiful friend Irina. We had such an incredible conversation about x,y, and z. I left that meeting feeling so loved, appreciated and connected. Talk about the positive feelings you cultivated that day POSITIVE FEELINGS ARE INFECTIOUS!
5. Check in with an accountability partner once a week. How did your week go? Share it with others. Allow people to support you on what matters most ❤️
Cheers to your happiest and healthiest year yet